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The true meaning of Christmas

The true meaning of Christmas is the celebration of the incredible act of love.

Whether your personal belief accepts the Christian meaning or not, the bottom line is “Love”.

Pass it around.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

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It’s something of a rare talent to find someone who has become 100% happy being alone. Not only are they happy, but they’re happy because they found their real selves, not because they were so turned off of other people they prefer to be alone.
They’re sometimes easy to spot, but they can be a little harder to get to know. Here’s what you should know about them.

1. They’re independent.
People who have found a balance with themselves and can be happy doing things on their own also develop a fierce independence. Sharing their space, sharing their lives, and really sharing anything they’re not prepared to is going to be a challenge. They’ve learned to rely upon themselves.

2. They’re about as confident as you get.
Those who have mastered the art of being happy alone tend to also be confident. We often surround ourselves with people because we lack the confidence to be fully exposed. They tend to be self-assured and they know they’re more than enough to have a good time.

3. They tend to be fascinating people.
Face it, there’s something interesting about a person who has no qualms about going through their life as a solo act. Sure, they might eventually find the perfect partner to complement them (and vice versa of course), but there’s just something so fascinating about them. They’re fun to talk to about their lives, and just because they’re independent doesn’t mean they won’t be up to chat about their philosophies.



4. They can be a little bit enigmatic.
If you don’t fully listen to them, at least. If you’re in pursuit of a person romantically that tends to be happy alone, they can seem strange and enigmatic. That’s likely because you aren’t actually listening to what they’re telling you. You have to be more than just some body they can call theirs in order to make them happier. They’re already happy. Bring new things to the table.

5. They love to travel.
Alone or with people. Those who have learned to be happy alone also enjoy experiencing new places and making new friends around the world. They don’t mind doing it by themselves either.



6. They’re incredibly sharp.
It feels like you have to be smart enough to come to some serious conclusions and face your real self in order to be someone who can truly be happy alone. In the face of this sharpness, they’re not likely to be duped into doing something they don’t want to and they won’t be easily manipulated.


7. Overall, they’re free people.



Higher Perspective

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We have all heard the phrase, “ignorance is bliss.”

That is actually very true. It turns out, the more you know about this planet and the people on it, the harder life becomes. Realizing when someone is telling a lie based on their body language or facial expression, understanding the complexities of social frustrations, and a plethora of other things may seem like a great gift to some, but in reality this type of intelligence can often feel like a hassle.

Hearing people whine about how their life is “unfair”, when they do nothing to change their projected path? Knowing that they are part of the problem is their ignorance (because they can’t see that)- and it is part of your intelligence (because you can.) You understand the varied differences in life and what each event or decision may unfold.

Besides these things I mentioned, what are other ways that being intelligent may make your life difficult?

1. Your sense of humor is your own. Few will get your sense of humor. Or you’ll be so funny that people will inevitably miss the hidden sentiments in your humor. Both will make you weep for humanity.

2. Your intelligence is ignored. One night you and a group of friends are looking up at the sky when one of them points to a bright point of light. “Look,” he says, “It’s a satellite.” Looking up, you realize he’s pointing at Venus, and you say so. But then this girl (who thinks you’re arrogant for some reason) agrees it is definitely a satellite, adding, “Sorry, but you’re wrong.” The next day, you email them a link to a site that explains satellites in geosynchronous orbit are usually too far away to be seen by the naked eye. “He’s still on about that?” they whisper when you turn your back. “What a douche.”


3. It’s harder to make friends. Intelligent people seek other intelligent people to befriend. When intelligent people meet someone new, they ask clever, seemingly innocent questions that help them identify whether the person is someone worthy of their friendship. Even if a potential friend has much to offer or similar interests, an intelligent person may be quick to blow him or her off if the person doesn’t display a level of insight into the world that matches theirs. This means intelligent people tend to be lonely. They become used to being alone and find solace in their work. While this means they dedicate more time to making breakthroughs in their field, they are at risk of developing depression.




4. It’s a lose-lose situation in terms of your identity. You can’t call yourself intelligent without being seen as an arrogant prick. But you also can’t also call yourself otherwise, without everyone seeing you as pretentious. And half the time, you’re not even defining yourself by your intelligence, other people are. But the minute you take the time to address it, you’re pompous. You’re silent? You’re summoned to speak. You talk? You’re being smug. Nope, you can’t win. Ever. Which is sad because being smart is supposed to be fun; but really, it just ends up feeling like a lot of boring and painful work.

5. You’ll be hard on yourself when you don’t “get things.” After all, you’re intelligent; understanding things and being imaginative, creative or critical is not “supposed” to be difficult. But no matter how smart you are, there will be things that you don’t get. And they will keep you up at night and cause you to believe that you’re losing your brain power.

6. Over-analyzing can cause “paralysis.” Intelligent people like to be aware of all the pros and cons before making a decision. Knowing these can often stop them from making a decision altogether. That’s because they over-analyze and let potential “what if” scenarios get the better of them. This may also be because many intelligent people are perfectionists and just want to make sure they get the best possible result.

If they are leading a team or organization, this combines for potentially disastrous effects. Imagine: you’re responsible for making the final call on the direction your company is going to take, but you can’t decide on what the core values should be.

7. When you are wrong, or make a mistake, it’s the focus of everyone. Soon after the Venus/satellite incident, you let it slip that you think Desmond Tutu is a jazz musician, and suddenly your knowledge (or lack thereof) is all anyone wants to talk about. And now you have a reputation for being both arrogant and ignorant.

Despite all these things mentioned, being smart is a blessing. I know it doesn’t feel like it sometimes (like when you are watching anything to do with politics and your brain happens to explode) but trust me, it is a good thing.

By Raven Fon

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 The Wisdom of the Dakota Indians

Someone sent me this a few years ago and I don’t know who it was or where this originated. But given all the dead horse beating that has been going on in this country today, I thought if I posted it, it might provide a welcome chuckle.

The tribal wisdom of the Dakota Indians, passed on from generation to generation, says that when you discover that you are riding a dead horse, the best strategy is to dismount.

In modern education and government, however, a whole range of far more advanced strategies are often employed, such as:

1. Buying a stronger whip.

2. Changing riders.

3. Threatening the horse with termination.

4. Appointing a committee to study the horse.

5. Visiting other sites to see how others ride dead horses.

6. Lowering the standards so that dead horses can be included.

7. Re-classifying the dead horse as “living, impaired”.

8. Hiring outside contractors to ride the dead horse.

9. Harnessing several dead horses together to increase the speed.

10. Attempting to mount multiple dead horses in hopes that one of them will spring to life.

11. Providing additional funding and/or training to increase the dead horse’s performance.

12. Doing a productivity study to see if lighter riders would improve the dead horse’s performance.

13. Declaring that as the dead horse does not have to be fed, it is less costly, carries lower overhead, and therefore contributes substantially more to the bottom line of the economy than do some other horses.

14. Re-writing the expected performance requirements for all horses.

15. Promoting the dead horse to a supervisory position.



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There was once a saint who was giving a discourse to a huge crowd of people in India. After he had finished talking, a young mother brought her baby to him to ask for healing as the child was seriously ill. He simply spoke a few words of blessing over the child. A man suddenly stood up in the crowd and shouted, you can’t just do that. How can a few words make any difference to this sick child? The teacher looked at him and then proceeded to hurl abuse and insults at him. The man reacted by flying into a rage and ran towards the teacher with the intention of hitting him. Just before he got to him, the teacher raised his hand and said, ‘Stop! Do you not see how my words have had the power to make you so angry? Why then should they not also have the power to heal?

Words can heal or harm and that is why we should speak few words, and when we do speak, we should make them kind and uplifting. If you cut others with your words, you cut yourself, and where is the wisdom in that?’



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There are times I sit in amazement that I have made it the 63 years I have lived. I now realize that each day is a gift, to be spent wisely and enjoyably, but when I look back over my early years at some of the decisions I had made, I shake my head.   Oh, we had the usual baseball games in the local pastures, and we enjoyed many camping excursions,  sports had it’s limits. We needed excitement in our boring, young lives, and we developed the means for obtaining our adrenaline rush.

Of all our playgrounds, our choice was the local truss bridge which spanned the Androscoggin River, one of the three largest rivers in Maine. We would climb over the side of the bridge and slowly make our way down to the middle support pier, located in a section of river that would sweep anyone who fell, into an area of boulders and whitewater rapids. Or taking the other route, we would shimmy up the angled truss beams and walk over the upper horizontals plate beams. The high point being that when a large vehicle crossed the bridge, we would prepare by laying flat on the beams and was always granted several seconds of sheer terror as the bridge creaked, groaned, vibrated, and swayed with the movement the vehicle passing under us. This rush was well worth the consequences we would receive if we were caught. I am also very appreciative that my mother does not use a computer, so I can confess without fear of a mother’s wrath.


Turner, Me

Center Bridge, Turner, Maine

As I am sitting here remembering those distant times, I am still in awe that I am sitting here at all.  Having had the freedom to make my mistakes when I was younger, and to learn, for the most part, from those mistakes, has slowly given me a contented and appreciative perspective on life.


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Maybe… if I fall into a long, deep slumber, I could stride the vast ocean’s edge or scale a high mountain’s granite ledge as a rose red sun descends into a fiery tinctures, to mingle and slowly fade. Or maybe I could escape into towering clouds that enfold the brilliance of an azure sky? Casting my shadow on rolling surf or jagged peaks. To sing the song of the wind and to observe it’s battle with lightly falling rain, or of shadowed dances and surrender of sun to clouds. To observe the balance between life and death and to relish that which lies between the two. To run, to laugh, to perceive the gifts given to us. To know the harmony of heart and spirit, blanketed in the stillness of serenity without design.


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