Posts Tagged ‘life changes’

As winter is now officially here, a bit God damned early in my most humble opinion, the chores and repairs that kept me busy all autumn have either been completed or went on hiatus, which leaves me with time to kill.  I shouldn’t complain about sitting on my ass next to the wood-stove, but I am not one to sit for long.  Neither am I very good at “small talk” type conversations, so my interaction with others is somewhat limited.  Not that I mind greatly.  As I read all the asinine shit going on in this country, I am happy to be where I am.

I went back through this blog, reading the crap I wrote years ago.  Some of those posts were so bad I instantly shit canned them and then looked over my shoulder to make sure no one had read any of it.  But what I came away with is that over the years, I have changed.  Not just gray hair, wrinkles and achy joints, but the way I see the world today.

For a subtle description, I morphed from “How are you feeling today?” (when first began facilitating groups) to, “You need to make some choices with your life that aren’t so fucking selfish and take care of your family.” , to “What the fuck is the matter with you?  Grow some fucking balls, get off your lazy ass and be a responsible adult.”   Yes, I know……not very therapeutic.  But I don’t give a fuck.  I got tired of whiny weak ass people who wouldn’t survive any challenge, let alone a natural disaster or emergency.

Today’s antics caused me to think of the history of this country.  Our ancestors kicked butt.  They kicked British ass back to London…twice.  Fought everyone and their brothers for God, country and Manifest Destiny.  Industrialized the world, fought 2 World Wars and saved Europe…twice.  These same people built the country’s infrastructure with blood, sweat and tears, and for many, their lives.

And now look at how society exists.  And it is really sad and disgusting.

Now my only question is: What the fuck happened to this country?


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“Life’s blows cannot break a person whose spirit is warmed by the fire of enthusiasm.” ~Norman Vincent Peale

With everyone, there comes certain points in our lives where we find ourselves stymied by the chaos around us.  We long for a new and exciting perspective on life and we believe that this new life will bring with it the happiness and peacefulness we are missing.  Maybe so, but what will be your first steps?  Here are some thoughts on how to begin your journey:

Stop overthinking: Also described as the art of creating problems that aren’t even there.  Before you talk, listen. Before you react, think. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try!

Let the past go: The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”–Steve Maraboli

Believe in yourself: “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.” –Mark Victor Hansen

Reflection: The true purpose of self-reflection is to correct our mistaken thoughts and actions, and learn from them, thereby creating a more constructive life. Self-reflection is not just the simple act of discovering past mistakes and making up for these mistakes, like resetting a negative zero. The ultimate objective of self-reflection is the development of a more positive self.

My new direction: Ryeder’s Edge

Go far: Do not stop living.  Find and explore all the aspects of life that life has to offer.  Experiment, explore, dream, and run like there is no tomorrow.

Take chances: Do not be afraid of change.  Relish the variety that you can have in life simply by doing.  Do not sit on the porch and watch the big dogs run by.  Join them and feel the wind in your face.

Live passionately: Enjoy and savor the miracles of life.  Create and utilize the sights, sounds and smells that is part of the majesty and wonder of nature.  Encompass and cling to the free gifts of life, such as family, friends, and the connection you have to all.  And live like you have no tomorrow.

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It’s something of a rare talent to find someone who has become 100% happy being alone. Not only are they happy, but they’re happy because they found their real selves, not because they were so turned off of other people they prefer to be alone.
They’re sometimes easy to spot, but they can be a little harder to get to know. Here’s what you should know about them.

1. They’re independent.
People who have found a balance with themselves and can be happy doing things on their own also develop a fierce independence. Sharing their space, sharing their lives, and really sharing anything they’re not prepared to is going to be a challenge. They’ve learned to rely upon themselves.

2. They’re about as confident as you get.
Those who have mastered the art of being happy alone tend to also be confident. We often surround ourselves with people because we lack the confidence to be fully exposed. They tend to be self-assured and they know they’re more than enough to have a good time.

3. They tend to be fascinating people.
Face it, there’s something interesting about a person who has no qualms about going through their life as a solo act. Sure, they might eventually find the perfect partner to complement them (and vice versa of course), but there’s just something so fascinating about them. They’re fun to talk to about their lives, and just because they’re independent doesn’t mean they won’t be up to chat about their philosophies.



4. They can be a little bit enigmatic.
If you don’t fully listen to them, at least. If you’re in pursuit of a person romantically that tends to be happy alone, they can seem strange and enigmatic. That’s likely because you aren’t actually listening to what they’re telling you. You have to be more than just some body they can call theirs in order to make them happier. They’re already happy. Bring new things to the table.

5. They love to travel.
Alone or with people. Those who have learned to be happy alone also enjoy experiencing new places and making new friends around the world. They don’t mind doing it by themselves either.



6. They’re incredibly sharp.
It feels like you have to be smart enough to come to some serious conclusions and face your real self in order to be someone who can truly be happy alone. In the face of this sharpness, they’re not likely to be duped into doing something they don’t want to and they won’t be easily manipulated.


7. Overall, they’re free people.



Higher Perspective

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Dreams are a wondrous thing. They lift you to the heavens, and bring you back down gently. They infuse in one the perseverance, motivation, and determination to reach success, no matter how or what one defines personal success. No, I’ not referring to the unconscious snippets of images one conjures up while sleeping, but of the conscious dreams we own of reaching a long sought after achievement, or the passion of beginning a new chapter on the road of life.

To stop dreaming is to stop experiencing life. To live in a stagnant world without change. To become complacent with our lives and to relinquish ourselves to the mundane.

Life lived properly consists of an ever changing chain of achievements, each a stepping stone from the previous to the impending. Decisions are made, lessons are hopefully learned, and we strive to have a better awareness of life.


Go Far, Take Chances, Live Passionately


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How to live in a tiny house.

Living in a house smaller than some people’s walk-in closets may not be for everyone, but those who are able to do so reap many benefits for themselves and for the world around them. Here are some tips for choosing the best type of small house for you and how to simplify your life so living in a small house is enjoyable and not confining.  Read more…


25 Brilliant Tiny Homes That Will Inspire You To Live Small

These micro houses prove that there is a certain beauty in finding a low-impact solution for you and your family. Bigger isn’t always better. Fans of the tiny home movement swear by it: when we simplify our lives and live “smaller” big savings – and improvements to the overall quality of your life – are possible.  Read more…


hobbit home


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The tiny house movement may be becoming popular, but it is far from new. Before humans settled down into permanent structures, tiny, mobile homes were the norm among our nomadic ancestors. Homes were designed to be packed up, moved and erected in a new place. Taking what our ancestors learned, ideas for modern versions are available….



A yurt is a portable, bent dwelling structure traditionally used by nomads in the steppes of Central Asia as their home. The structure comprises a crown or compression wheel, usually steam bent, supported by roof ribs which are bent down at the end where they meet the lattice wall (again, steam bent). The top of the wall is prevented from spreading by means of a tension band which opposes the force of the roof ribs. The structure is usually covered by layers of fabric and sheep’s wool felt for insulation and weatherproofing.




In North America, the Tipi was the Native American’s answer to the Eastern yurt. This structure, though different in shape, could also be packed up and moved when necessary. This is a conical tent, traditionally made of animal skins, and wooden poles. The tipi was used by the nomadic tribes of the Great Plains in North America. Tipis are stereotypically associated with Native Americans in the United States in general; however Native Americans from places other than the Great Plains mostly used different types of dwellings. The tipi is durable provides warmth and comfort in winter, is cool in the heat of summer, and is dry during heavy rains. Tipis could be disassembled and packed away quickly when a tribe decided to move and could be reconstructed quickly upon settling in a new area. This portability was important to Plains Indians with their nomadic lifestyle. Modern tipi covers are usually made of canvas. Contemporary users of tipis include historical reenactors, back-to-the-land devotees, and Native American families attending powwows or encampments who wish to preserve and pass on a part of their heritage and tradition.






Gypsy Wagons

Moving ahead a few years, we see Gypsy wagons rolling around Europe on primitive wheels. Even in that era, mobile, nomadic people were hard to categorize. They were often unwelcome and considered “unsavory”, as settled people did not know what to do with them or where to put them when they visited town. (In the future, in England, towns would consider building in areas of land for visiting nomadic people).  A vardo (also waggon, living wagon, van, and caravan) is a traditional horse-drawn wagon used by British Romani people as their home.] Possessing a chimney, it is commonly thought of as being highly decorated, intricately carved, brightly painted, and even gilded. The British Romani tradition of the vardo is seen as a high cultural point of both artistic design and a masterpiece of woodcrafters art.




gypsy wagons


Sheep Wagon

The sheep wagon was “home on the range” for sheep herders with their shaggy old dog lying outside watching over the band of sheep in the nearby meadow. Sheep wagons made their debut between 1890 and 1930 on the western prairie and in the mountain meadows. These humble abodes were the homes of nomadic sheep herders who followed their bands of sheep in search of green pastures. This “home on wheels” was pulled from one location to another by a team of horses. As automobiles became popular, the large wooden-spoke wheels were often replaced by rubber tires. The team of horses was retired and a pickup truck replaced them. Although meager, this wagon was a shelter for the sheep herder which contained most of the necessities of life. It was a kitchen, bedroom, and living-room, ingeniously packaged into one small space.



sheep wagon



And finally, the Model T

Model T tiny house

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