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I was recently described by a co-worker as “anti-social.” I smiled, knowing that the definition was not too far off track, but I have always disliked the prefix; “anti”. It seems so…anti-being.

Also recently I had the fortune of meeting a gentleman that has lived much of his senior life in a remote area of the Black Hills, here in South Dakota. He had lived a nongregarious lifestyle for many years and in many locations. He concluded that the locations in Alaska and Montana had been very remote and challenging and that he had thoroughly enjoyed these places, but as he aged, he said his needs had changed to where it was now required of him to be able to make it into town without hiking many miles to civilization.
As one who’s only contact with people is a rare trip into town for supplies, he described his choice of living in solitude as; “A time of self-discovery and learning our true destiny”.

I asked him if he ever felt loneliness. Looking out over the large golden valley that defined and enhanced the remoteness of the area, he replied that solitude is a prerequisite of understanding one’s self. He explained that there are occasions where he did feel an emptiness, but only when he remembered back to those he had lost along his journey of life. He described family members and friends as gifts that he will always carry with him and that he missed the closeness of these times.

Solitude and Loneliness. Though both conditions are self-induced mind frames, they are completely different with the exception of a commonality of being physically alone. While solitude is chosen, loneliness is/can be imposed by others as well as self-imposed. The capacity to experience true solitude comes from an inner spiritual understanding.

Solitude can be beneficial in several of today’s environments where life is full of stress. The craziness of the world, the violence, greed and self-narcissistic mentality of society can become overwhelming at times. The intrusive mentality of government and big business can also be overpowering. By encompassing solitude we can defeat a number of our problems by discovering which ones are truly important and which ones are situations we cannot change.

“But isn’t isolating just a want of disconnecting from life?” No. Solitude is not isolation but a state of being aware of our actual requirements and objectives in life, which are normally not visible to us by the complex and intrusive demands that work and society try to command from us. Solitude is a state of being in the present, a state of relaxation and a motivation of life itself. Solitude assists us in unblocking the barriers in finding joy in relationships, enhances our imagination and creativity, and can lead to a greater inner peace of mind and spirit.

Solitude is an extraordinary steward of the human spirit and shows us that living each moment as a new moment, creates within us a greater sensitivity to one’s thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations. That is the real message of solitude, and it is through this fundamental self-awareness, that we find our true selves.






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